Archive for the 'childcare' Category

spanking doesn’t work!

Tuesday, October 21st, 2008

Parents must know that while spanking may work in the very near term to stop a child from misbehaving, it ultimately backfires.  For starters, spanking teaches your child that the bigger, stronger person in a disagreement always wins.  And that in order to make your point, you must strike another person.  The irony is that children are often spanked for hitting or kicking another child.

An article by Lisa Belkin in this morning’s New York Times Magazine Blog, “When Is Spanking Chid Abuse?” shares the findings of Alan E, Kazdin research.  Mr. Kazdin is the Director of the Parenting Center and Child Conduct Clinic at Yale and reports that 63 percent of parents physically discipline their 1-to 2-year-olds.  I find this statistic staggering and alarming.  In a piece Mr Kazdin wrote for Slate, he says there’s “a strong natural tendency to escalate the frequency and severity of punishment.”  Here is the part of what he says that I wish every parent would understand.

“The negative effects on children include increased aggression and noncompliance—the very misbehaviors that most often inspire parents to hit in the first place—as well as poor academic achievement, poor quality of parent-child relationships, and increased risk of a mental-health problem (depression or anxiety, for instance). High levels of corporal punishment are also associated with problems that crop up later in life, including diminished ability to control one’s impulses and poor physical-health outcomes (cancer, heart disease, chronic respiratory disease). Plus, there’s the effect of increasing parents’ aggression, and don’t forget the consistent finding that physical punishment is a weak strategy for permanently changing behavior.”

I have to believe that if parents really knew what was at risk with corporal punishment, they would work harder to seek an effective solution.  Stay posted for a seminar on this very topic.


Wednesday, April 23rd, 2008

Jo Frost will be in NYC soon at a Babies R’Us Store near you.  She is the star of ABC’s hit show “Supernanny” and author of Confident Baby Care.

Friday May 9th at 1 pm in Union Square Babies R’ Us

Saturday May 10th at 12:30 in Westbury Babies R’ Us

Saturday May 10th at 4 pm in Staten Island Babies R’ Us Store

the nanny doctor

Wednesday, February 27th, 2008


It regularly comes to my attention just how nuanced and complex the relationship is between nanny and parent. And that makes a lot of sense. After all, these are the people who are coming into your home and sharing an intimacy with your family unlike anyone else. Many parents feel wholly unprepared for the process of selecting and employing a nanny and often admit that there are big areas of the relationship that they would like to work on, but feel that it is too delicate to upset, so a lot gets let go.

Enter Dr. Lindsay Heller of Beverly Hills, CA, who also goes by “The Nanny Doctor”. She has been working with families and their nannies for more than a decade. Here is a little bit more of what she shared about her work:

In addition to being a licensed clinical psychologist, Dr. Heller was a well-respected nanny for over 10 years in both the Los Angeles and San Francisco areas. She has lived-in, lived-out, has been both the weekend nanny and the weekly nanny. She has traveled as a nanny both domestically and internationally. She has worked in single parents households as well as fully staffed high profile estates. She has nannied for families with infants, toddlers, elementary age, middle school age, and teens.

In the spirit of Attachment Theory, Dr. Lindsay Heller seeks to promote positive relationships between families and their nannies that create strong, healthy, secure emotional bonds between children and their caregivers that will nurture future meaningful relationships. You can visit her website to learn more about her services,

how’s YOUR nanny?

Friday, July 20th, 2007


Swellbeing has a new friend in None of us wants to worry about worst case scenarios, especially where our children are concerned, but wouldn’t it be nice to know others are looking out for our shorties when we’re not able to?

Jill Starishevsky, a child abuse and sex crimes prosecutor in New York City was home on maternity leave with her second child recently when she got the idea for her business. This service provides license plates for strollers with a unique identifying number on them enabling the public to anonymously report praiseworthy or concerning nanny observations. Registered parents then receive an email alerting them of the report. There are checks and balances built into the system to ensure the claims people make are credible.

This community watch is catching on like wildfire and has already received a lot of media attention. You can check them out on the Today Show during the week of July 23rd.

The program works on a membership basis at the rate of $50 per year. Swellbeing parents who register will receive a 20% discount. Enter this code: 8743re3e.